The Best Gift You Can Give Yourself: Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 22, 2016 Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life5 CommentsIn this holiday season, we are obsessed with what to give people we love. Few of us think about what we can give ourselves. So here is a suggestion....
Letting Go: When Losses are Inevitable Stan Goldberg July 29, 2016 Grieving and Recovery15 CommentsAs the Soberanes fire in Carmel, California comes closer to our vacation home, I’m devastated knowing the source of wonderful memories will most...
Brain Cancer: Five Suggestions for Compassionate Caregiving Stan Goldberg June 1, 2015 Cancer, Thoughts of the DayThe death of Beau Biden resurrected memories of caring for my brother-in-law who had a form of brain cancer called Glioblastoma. My wife, two adult...
Compassion and Cancer: Part III-Putting “Meat” on Compassionate Behaviors Stan Goldberg February 27, 2015 Cancer, Thoughts of the Day4 CommentsWe want to be helpful to whose living with cancer, but often we don’t know how to transform compassionate intent into helpful behaviors. I...
Thought of the Day: Part 3 Grief Hierarchy- Reducing Grief Stan Goldberg January 22, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsIn Part 1 of Grief Hierarchy, I presented the idea grief shouldn't be evaluated in terms of whose is greater. In Part 2, I introduced the notion...
Thought of the Day: Part 2 Grief Hierarchy- The Nature of Grief Stan Goldberg January 21, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsTHOUGHT OF THE DAY. In the first installment of this series, I presented the idea grief shouldn't be placed on a hierarchy of importance. I...
Thought of the Day: Part 1 Grief Hierarchy- It Shouldn’t Exist Stan Goldberg January 20, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the DayEveryone has lost a partner, friend, parent, job, ability, pet, or object that created joy. It is something viewed as irreplaceable by the person...
A Lesson from Terrorism: Violence and The Grayness of Life Stan Goldberg January 16, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsTHOUGHT OF THE DAY. Each day’s new violence makes people want to retreat into a 1950’s bomb shelter, or buy a home in a gated and guarded...
Charlie Hebdo Tragedy: Bad Guys Who Were Willing to Act Stan Goldberg January 8, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day4 CommentsTHOUGHT OF THE DAY. I wrote an article on January 6, 2015 how thoughts are theoretical unless there is a conviction to act (Selma: Why I Write About...
Grief and Recovery: Whatever Gets You Through the Night Stan Goldberg January 2, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the DayTHOUGHT OF THE DAY. "Whatever Gets You Through the Night," is the title of John Lennon's 1970's hit single. The phrase, credited to Reverend Ike, a...
Compassion for Those Left Behind: A Holiday Wish For Those Who Are Grieving Stan Goldberg December 23, 2014 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day3 CommentsI received a wonderful LinkedIn invitation to connect this morning from the CEO of After A Loss. It is a Canadian service organization I wish...
Anticipating Your Death: A Transformative Exercise Stan Goldberg December 4, 2014 End of Life, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsIn 1998 Steven Levine Wrote “One Year to Live,” where he asked readers to think about what they would do if their death occurred in one year. I...
La Bohème: A Old Lesson in Living and Dying Stan Goldberg December 3, 2014 End of Life, Thoughts of the Day7 CommentsLast night with my wife I attended La Boheme, an opera by Puccini showing how little attitudes about dying changed since 1896 when the opera was...
When a Friend Wants to Talk About Something Uncomfortable Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Chronic illness, Thoughts of the Day06/09/14 A friend I know for more than 20 years asked to speak with me about a life-threatening illness. He didn’t want medical advise. He was...
The Importance of Ritual Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day3 Comments06/08/14 I had the wonderful experience yesterday of performing the marriage service for the daughter of my friend of 45 years. My contribution to...
Aging and Identity: Part I-The Perfect Storm Stan Goldberg March 12, 2014 Aging11 CommentsIn 2010, I wrote Top 10 Insults for Old People, a tongue-in-cheek article about an insensitive young couple I watched making fun of an older man as...
Now the Bad News:Living With Chronic Illness Stan Goldberg June 10, 2013 Chronic illness18 CommentsI was asked to join Thich Nhat Hanh, Jane Goodall, Norman Fischer, and other writers I have long admired in contributing to Shambhala Sun’s July...
The Melody of Our Lives: A Lesson in Grieving Stan Goldberg March 31, 2013 Grieving and Recovery18 CommentsChoosing the appropriate instrument to stop grieving When I attended a workshop on the Native American flute (NAF), I didn't realize that the...
Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work: And How to Change It Stan Goldberg January 1, 2013 Aging7 CommentsI look at my aging body and resolve to get in shape, lose weight, eat better, listen without judging, and practice my flute more often. They are the...
Why We Grieve: Sandy Hook and Other Deaths Stan Goldberg December 15, 2012 Grieving and Recovery16 CommentsOn news shows and press conferences about the Sandy Hook Elementary School, I repeatedly heard things such as ----Our hearts go out to the...