Books by Stan Goldberg

Whether you’re coping with a loved one who has received a terminal diagnosis, has a long-term illness or disability, or suffers with dementia, caregiving is challenging and crucial. Those who face this responsibility, whether occasionally or 24/7, are brushing up against life’s sharpest point.

In this book, Stan Goldberg offers an honest, caring, and comprehensive guide to those on this journey. Everyone wants to “do the right thing,” and this book provides the often-elusive how-to; from bedside etiquette to advice on initiating difficult conversations, caring for oneself while caring for another, navigating rapid changes in your loved one’s condition, and even offering “permission” for them to die.

Goldberg’s stories demonstrate how to address the most difficult topics and will facilitate more open and useful communication and caregiving.

Twelve years ago it was my turn. “You have prostate cancer,” the urologist said. “And it’s aggressive.” I don’t remember what I said to him, but I still become nauseous thinking of his four words. I was fifty-seven then. Death was still something theoretical, something that happened to other people– people of my parent’s generation.

Throughout my service to people living and dying from cancer, I heard that although they wanted to share their diagnosis, they were concerned how friends and loved ones would react. Often when they said, “I have cancer,” there was an awkward silence accompanied by a painful expression.

The purpose of this book is to help loved ones and friends understand what we are experiencing and what they can do to help us on our journey. You will learn 48 things to do that will support your loved one or friend on this unsettling journey you both will travel. The suggestions range from the simplicity of compassionate listening to the gut-wrenching preparation for death.