Complacent? When Living with Cancer No Longer Works Stan Goldberg February 6, 2019 Cancer22 CommentsUntil last week, I was one of the millions living with cancer who became complacent about my uninvited guest. That abruptly changed.
The Guardians of Memory (A finalist) Stan Goldberg December 11, 2018 Life, Short Stories2 CommentsHannah glides through the fog as if an apparition—beautiful and giving as if Jesus himself is pouring her out of a wine bottle. I point my old Leica towards her as she stands in front of a Monterey Pine, its branches bent eastward from years of persistent winds. This will be more than just another picture I’ll add to my collection.
Feeling Helpless? Do Something Positive Instead Stan Goldberg October 30, 2018 Aging, Cancer, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life3 CommentsHelpless? Everyone at one time experiences it due to aging, declining health, shattered relationships, or deteriorating world conditions. The way we...
The Meaning of Life—Why the Question Makes No Sense Stan Goldberg May 17, 2018 Aging, End of Life, LifeThe words we use and questions we ask ourselves often shape our lives in ways that can be insightful or hurtful. What is the meaning of life is an example of the latter.
Why Apologies May Not Work Stan Goldberg May 16, 2018 Aging, Life2 CommentsThere was a time when apologies were made in person, where you looked someone in the eyes, admitted what you did was wrong, cruel, unintentional, or just stupid, and listened to their reactions, as difficult as they were to hear.
Coping With Anger: Why You Should Substitute Forgiveness With Understanding Stan Goldberg March 27, 2017 Caregiving1 CommentRarely do we think about how our anger hurts ourselves. We hold on to anger as if it was life-sustaining rather than destructive, believing we can throw hot coals without getting burnt.
14 Questions to Ask Before Selecting a Nursing Home Stan Goldberg February 3, 2017 Caregiving12 Commentsby Stan Goldberg. Originally published by verywell.com, January 23, 2016 There may come a time when, despite wanting to care for your loved one, it...
Forgiveness: The Best Gift You Can Give To Yourself and Others Stan Goldberg January 31, 2017 Caregiving, Uncategorized2 CommentsThe greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness
The Best Gift You Can Give Yourself: Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 22, 2016 Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life5 CommentsIn this holiday season, we are obsessed with what to give people we love. Few of us think about what we can give ourselves. So here is a suggestion....
Caregiving, Death and a Strange Uncle Stan Goldberg August 24, 2015 End of LifeAn exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg We view death with the same anathema as the strange uncle who comes uninvited to a family...
Five Ways to Help a Loved One Adjust to Chronic Illness Stan Goldberg August 21, 2015 Chronic illnessAn exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg I sat with my brother-in-law who lived with a chronic illness and reminded him of the...
The Need for Stability: Part II-Its Role in Chronic and Progressive Illnesses Stan Goldberg May 6, 2015 Aging, Chronic illness, Life, Thoughts of the DayWe often underestimate the need for introducing stability in the lives of people living with chronic and progressive illnesses. In Part I of this...
Stability : Part I-Why It’s Critical for Successful Aging Stan Goldberg May 4, 2015 Aging, Chronic illness, Thoughts of the Day3 CommentsI came to an understanding about the need for stability when faced with two financial choices. Regardless what I chose either outcome would be fine,...
Run Away: Part III-Five Conflict-Related Questions to Ask Stan Goldberg April 24, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the DayWe often try to isolate events in our lives from everything that precedes and follows it. The practice is delusional at best, destructive at it’s...
Thought of the Day: Part 3 Grief Hierarchy- Reducing Grief Stan Goldberg January 22, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsIn Part 1 of Grief Hierarchy, I presented the idea grief shouldn't be evaluated in terms of whose is greater. In Part 2, I introduced the notion...
Thought of the Day: Part 1 Grief Hierarchy- It Shouldn’t Exist Stan Goldberg January 20, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the DayEveryone has lost a partner, friend, parent, job, ability, pet, or object that created joy. It is something viewed as irreplaceable by the person...
Elder Abuse: What They Don’t Show on TV Stan Goldberg January 15, 2015 Aging, Thoughts of the DayThought of the Day. A number of years ago I witnessed elder abuse as I walked behind a twenty-something-year-old couple in downtown San Francisco. My...
Let Go: Why You Should Prepare Today for Your Eventual Death Stan Goldberg January 13, 2015 End of Life, Thoughts of the Day4 CommentsThought of the Day. Maybe it's the senseless violence of the last few days. Maybe it's realizing my dance with cancer will end. Maybe it's becoming...
Living With a Cancer Diagnosis, Coffee Distinctions, and Life’s Nuances Stan Goldberg January 7, 2015 Cancer, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsThought of the Day- I love coffee, but amazed when I read descriptions of their flavors and aromas, "buttery, bitter sweet, raspberry, vanilla, etc."...
Selma: Why I Write About The Sharp Points of Life Stan Goldberg January 6, 2015 Aging, Thoughts of the Day8 CommentsFor the past few days trailers about the movie, Selma and criticisms about its historical accuracy flooded the airways. I'll see the movie regardless...