Lessons for the Living: Stories of Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Courage at the End of Live, by Stan Goldberg

Lessons for the Living:

Stories of Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Courage at the End of Life

Whether you’re coping with a loved one who has received a terminal diagnosis, has a long-term illness or disability, or suffers with dementia, caregiving is challenging and crucial. Those who face this responsibility, whether occasionally or 24/7, are brushing up against life’s sharpest point.

In this book, Stan Goldberg offers an honest, caring, and comprehensive guide to those on this journey. Everyone wants to “do the right thing,” and this book provides the often-elusive how-to; from bedside etiquette to advice on initiating difficult conversations, caring for oneself while caring for another, navigating rapid changes in your loved one’s condition, and even offering “permission” for them to die.

Goldberg’s stories demonstrate how to address the most difficult topics and will facilitate more open and useful communication and caregiving.

2011- First Place Award-Winner in the Spirituality: Inspirational
—-Category  International Book Awards

2011 – Best Buddhist Writing of 2011
2010 – London Book Festival Grand Prize Winner, Best International Book
2010 – London Book Festival Best International Inspirational Book
2009 – Top Books of the Year, MyShelf.com
2009 – Top Books of the Year, Cyrus Webb Conversations Book Club

Available in the Following Languages: English, Portuguese, Chinese (Taiwan), Chinese (Mainland), Indonesian

“Even if we stubbornly refuse to allow death to influence our lives, our lives will definitely influence our death. Stan Goldberg, author of “Lessons for the Living: Stories of Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Courage at the End of Life,” writes that “the ideas and emotions people carry with them through life often determine the quality of their death.” In other words a “good death” is more likely if you have had a good life. “I’ve come to believe the baggage I’ll tote with me to my death will determine its quality,” he writes. “I’ve learned the importance of doing simple things—telling my family and friends I love them; expressing gratitude for even the smallest kindnesses shown to me; being accepting of the unskillful words and actions of others; and asking for forgiveness when I screw up.”

Arianna Huffington. Thrive(p. 209).
Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale. Kindle Edition.


“Lessons for the Living is that rare self-help book that actually lives up to its title. Engaging and enlightening, but never pedantic, Goldberg imparts basic life lessons on the importance of giving, communicating, loving, and forgiving. It took a lethal disease and time spent as a hospice volunteer caring for persons he came to know and love for Goldberg to learn these important truths. Unfortunately, many other persons do not learn them until the end of life approaches, if at all. Readers of Lessons for the Living are fortunate that Goldberg has learned and lived these lessons and can share them so ably.”—Sacramento Book Review

“This is not a book to be taken lightly, nor one to be read to pass a summer’s day. This is one to read in order to change how you plan on living out the rest of your days. . . . You don’t have to be dying from cancer to find this book valuable. You just have to be dying from lack of life.”—MyShelf.com

“This book draws aside the veil of frightening taboos about death and dying. As Stan Goldberg faces his own cancer by comforting the terminally ill, his deeply personal journey is both an inspiration and a compassionate guide for others.”—Louise Branson, editorial writer for USA Today

“In this book, we learn what Stan Goldberg has learned about death’s many gifts, and a plain truth: living is not about triumphing over death; it is about embracing it. Despite all our efforts to avoid it, there is wisdom in death that deepens our life.”—Mark Trautwein, editor of KQED’s Perspectives

“Stan Goldberg’s compassionate look at being present with those who are dying gives us a rare glimpse into lessons learned by being a witness to—and fully engaged participant in—the end of life. This encouraging book shares insightful awareness that the end of life presents opportunities for emotional and spiritual growth for all of us on life’s journey.”—Mary Jo Gediman, outreach director of public radio’s This I Believe

“The greatest wisdom in this world comes from children and adults who are facing their own deaths. Stan Goldberg shares his own experience of mortality and the wisdom he gained from hospice patients in this remarkable book. I recommend it for anyone who hopes for connection and joy in this life.”—John Golenski, executive director, George Mark Children’s Hospice

“A wonderful, wise, and deeply personal book that brings you closer to the bone of life.”—Joan Halifax, author of Being With Dying