The Meaning of Life—Why the Question Makes No Sense Stan Goldberg May 17, 2018 Aging, End of Life, LifeThe words we use and questions we ask ourselves often shape our lives in ways that can be insightful or hurtful. What is the meaning of life is an example of the latter.
Run Away: Part II—The Emotional Cost of Conflict Stan Goldberg April 22, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsMaybe it’s because I recently turned 70 and finally acquired the wisdom gained from numerous failures. Or possibly I realize that winning isn’t...
Our Insane and Destructive Thoughts: Part II-Their Purpose Stan Goldberg March 12, 2015 LifeSometimes answers to questions come from the strangest places. For example; who would think to look at films to identify the purpose of our insane...
Alzheimer’s/Dementia Part III: How to Speak Dementia-Thought of the Day Stan Goldberg February 6, 2015 Alzheimer’s/dementia, Thoughts of the DayWho would think there is anything humorous about Dementia? Most people who experience it or their caregivers wouldn't. But humor and improvisation...
Alzheimer’s and Dementia (Part I): What It Is and What It Isn’t. Thought of the Day Stan Goldberg February 2, 2015 Alzheimer’s/dementia, Thoughts of the Day8 CommentsAlzheimer's: it's becoming a less distant illness and something directly touching us. If a friend or relative doesn't have it or had it, it's just a...
Thought of the Day: Part 3 Grief Hierarchy- Reducing Grief Stan Goldberg January 22, 2015 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsIn Part 1 of Grief Hierarchy, I presented the idea grief shouldn't be evaluated in terms of whose is greater. In Part 2, I introduced the notion...
Elder Abuse: What They Don’t Show on TV Stan Goldberg January 15, 2015 Aging, Thoughts of the DayThought of the Day. A number of years ago I witnessed elder abuse as I walked behind a twenty-something-year-old couple in downtown San Francisco. My...
Life Lessons From Roadside Wood Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day06/23/14 A few months ago I began doing wood sculpting. The first few pieces were done from blocks of kiln-dried wood. The desired object was...
Why You Should Avoid Anger and How to Do It Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day06/13/14 I think everyone has a limited ability to function well. As we age, that threshold becomes lower. Imagine this ability is a 10” pie. The...
Joyful Aging—Adapt, Don’t Fight Stan Goldberg June 24, 2014 Aging19 CommentsWhen I see commercials on how to recreate the body I had at 20-years-of-age by applying a magical cream that isn’t sold in any regulated stores and...
Few Insights Drinking Mai Tais on the Beach Stan Goldberg January 29, 2014 Aging, Workshops and PresentationsFor more than 30 years I've been brought, kicking and screaming, to the sharp points of life. What I've learned is instead of running away, bring them closer and you'll enrich your life and ease your death
Want Enlightenment? Think Less, Do more Stan Goldberg March 30, 2012 Grieving and Recovery, Life12 CommentsWhen I gave a workshop on change at a well-known retreat center, one participant told me that this was the tenth week-long workshop he attended in...
The Zen of Eating Cream of Wheat: A Journey Into Dementia Stan Goldberg November 10, 2010 Alzheimer’s/dementia9 CommentsAs a bedside hospice volunteer in San Francisco, I always have the choice of whether or not to accept an assignment. Some, I immediately know are right for me, such as sitting with a man my age who was estranged from his family and desperately wanted to reconnect with them. With others, especially those with advanced Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia, I occasionally question whether the assignment makes sense—but not anymore.
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-3: Create a Positive Environment Stan Goldberg December 28, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die:3 Create a Positive Environment. The focus should be on life, even as a loved one's life is slipping...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-4: Simplifying Life Stan Goldberg December 27, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die: 4-Simplifying Life. As a loved one comes closer to dying, interests become more defined. There is much you can do to...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-5: Listen More, Talk Less Stan Goldberg December 26, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die: 5-Listen More, Talk Less. We tend to fill periods of silence with words, almost as if it was a requirement. Yet, it's...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-6: Don’t Rely Just on Words Stan Goldberg December 25, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die: 6-Don't Rely Just on Words. There are many emotions that can't be conveyed to loved ones just by...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-7: Talk About Death Stan Goldberg December 24, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die: 7-Talk About Death. People who are dying usually know it and if given permission to talk about it, will want...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-8: Forgive and Ask For Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 23, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die:8-Forgive and Ask For Forgiveness. Two things that make dying more difficult is not being forgiven for unskillful acts...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-10: Private Experiences Stan Goldberg December 21, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die VideosHelping Our Loved Ones Die:10-Private Experiences. People close to death may relate visits by loved ones who have died. Whether or not you think...
