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Brain Cancer: Five Suggestions for Compassionate Caregiving

Stan Goldberg
June 1, 2015
Cancer, Thoughts of the Day
The death of Beau Biden resurrected memories of caring for my brother-in-law who had a form of brain cancer called Glioblastoma. My wife, two adult children and I took turns flying across the country to...
Don't travel after having chemotherapy

Chemotherapy, Expectations and Heavy Machinery: Warnings and Suggestions

Stan Goldberg
May 21, 2015
Cancer, Thoughts of the Day
11 Comments
  It’s not a good idea to have meaningful discussions, work with heavy machinery, or travel to Europe shortly after chemotherapy. I managed to keep my mouth shut, avoided working with anything...
We can control stability in our lives

The Need for Stability: Part III-Five Ways To Introduce It

Stan Goldberg
May 8, 2015
Aging, Life, Thoughts of the Day
4 Comments
Stability, as we age, is more important than excitement. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging. In Part II I elaborated on its role in chronic and progressive...
Stability in chronic and progressive illnesses

The Need for Stability: Part II-Its Role in Chronic and Progressive Illnesses

Stan Goldberg
May 6, 2015
Aging, Chronic illness, Life, Thoughts of the Day
We often underestimate the need for introducing stability in the lives of people living with chronic and progressive illnesses. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging....
Living with an older brain

Stability : Part I-Why It’s Critical for Successful Aging

Stan Goldberg
May 4, 2015
Aging, Chronic illness, Thoughts of the Day
3 Comments
I came to an understanding about the need for stability when faced with two financial choices. Regardless what I chose either outcome would be fine, unlike a situation in the past were I was forced to choose...
Senseless conflict

Run Away: Part III-Five Conflict-Related Questions to Ask

Stan Goldberg
April 24, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
We often try to isolate events in our lives from everything that precedes and follows it. The practice is delusional at best, destructive at it’s worst.  In Part I of this series I questioned the notion...
Men arguing

Run Away: Part II—The Emotional Cost of Conflict

Stan Goldberg
April 22, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
2 Comments
Maybe it’s because I recently turned 70 and finally acquired the wisdom gained from numerous failures. Or possibly I realize that winning isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Regardless of the reason, just...
Viewing life as winners or losers creates a zero-sum game and a painful world

Run Away: Part I-Life Doesn’t Have to Be a Zero-Sum Game

Stan Goldberg
April 20, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
6 Comments
We are led to believe success means winning; whether it’s defeating cancer, coming out ahead in a negotiation, prevailing in a family conflict or justice for a wrong committed against us. These daily...
Change should be almost as easy as not changing

Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part III-How to Evaluate Change Programs

Stan Goldberg
April 10, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
You are about to spend time and money on a program guaranteeing you will be slimmer, shapelier, healthier, or more successful. You’re motivated to change, but you were also motivated in the past when you...
Change guru

Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part II: Change-You Didn’t Fail; The Guru Did

Stan Goldberg
April 8, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
We place our trust in experts to instruct us how to change. With failure, we rarely blame the expert or her program. Most of the time, that’s where the responsibility should rest. Confusing What and How of...
Not adjusting for age and condition

Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part I-Difference Between What and How

Stan Goldberg
April 6, 2015
Aging, Life, Thoughts of the Day
Advice gurus flood Saturday morning cable shows with programs on weight loss, exercise, wealth management, and becoming more authentic. By following their instructions we will become the person we deserve to...
Memories

Squishy Memories: Part III-Corralling The Mind

Stan Goldberg
March 27, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
In some ways, our memories are like a herd of cattle on an open range; trying to go in whatever direction they choose. Unless they can be controlled and understood, their recall can be destructive. In Part...
We never look back on the past objectively

Squishy Memories: Part II-Why Does the Mind Change the Past?

Stan Goldberg
March 25, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
In Part I of this series, I wrote our mind’s creation of memories is unreliable since it has a hidden agenda.  In Part II I’ll offer reasons why we should trust memories only a little more than we do a...

Squishy Memories: Part I-The Big Con

Stan Goldberg
March 23, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
I was asked if I thought individuals can block memories of traumatic events, and if not, could certain triggers cause these events to resurface. Although the question was about PTSD, I realized it had...
destructive thoughts

Our Insane and Destructive Thoughts: Part III-What to Do About Them

Stan Goldberg
March 13, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
5 Comments
Knowing what destructive thoughts are is one thing. Knowing how to stop them is another. In Part I of this three-part series, I maintained one form of our insane thoughts is the creation of  “what if”...
Our insane thoughts

Our Internal Insane Thoughts: Part I-What Are They?

Stan Goldberg
March 9, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
4 Comments
How many days has it been since you replayed a scene in your mind where you said hurtful, revealing or politically incorrect words you wish could have been taken back? Possibly you were diligent in your speech...
Putting meat on compassion

Compassion and Cancer: Part III-Putting “Meat” on Compassionate Behaviors

Stan Goldberg
February 27, 2015
Cancer, Thoughts of the Day
4 Comments
We want to be helpful to whose living with cancer, but often we don’t know how to transform compassionate intent into helpful behaviors. I discussed why compassion isn’t sufficient to be helpful in Part I....
Very old man

Compassion and Cancer: Part II-How Cancer Changes Identity (Thought of the Day)

Stan Goldberg
February 25, 2015
Cancer, Thoughts of the Day
5 Comments
We like to think life is on a seamless continuum, moving along, maybe in spurts and stops, but having consistency throughout the years, as does our identity. We're the same person today we were last week and...
Person with cancer

Compassion and Cancer: Part I-Why Compassion Isn’t Enough

Stan Goldberg
February 23, 2015
Cancer, Thoughts of the Day
1 Comment
We have an inherent desire to be compassionate. In the misery of another person, we see ourselves, if not in the present, than in the past or future. But compassion is not sufficient for helping people living...
improvisation and dementia

Alzheimer’s/Dementia Part III: How to Speak Dementia-Thought of the Day

Stan Goldberg
February 6, 2015
Alzheimer’s/dementia, Thoughts of the Day
Who would think there is anything humorous about Dementia? Most people who experience it or their caregivers wouldn't. But humor and improvisation may be a key element to reducing anxiety and creating joy for...
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