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Squishy Memories: Part II-Why Does the Mind Change the Past?

Stan Goldberg
March 25, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
In Part I of this series, I wrote our mind’s creation of memories is unreliable since it has a hidden agenda.  In Part II I’ll offer reasons why we should trust memories only a little more than we do a...

Squishy Memories: Part I-The Big Con

Stan Goldberg
March 23, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
I was asked if I thought individuals can block memories of traumatic events, and if not, could certain triggers cause these events to resurface. Although the question was about PTSD, I realized it had...
destructive thoughts

Our Insane and Destructive Thoughts: Part III-What to Do About Them

Stan Goldberg
March 13, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
5 Comments
Knowing what destructive thoughts are is one thing. Knowing how to stop them is another. In Part I of this three-part series, I maintained one form of our insane thoughts is the creation of  “what if”...

Our Insane and Destructive Thoughts: Part II-Their Purpose

Stan Goldberg
March 12, 2015
Life
Sometimes answers to questions come from the strangest places. For example; who would think to look at films to identify the purpose of our insane and destructive thoughts? In Part I of this three-part...
Our insane thoughts

Our Internal Insane Thoughts: Part I-What Are They?

Stan Goldberg
March 9, 2015
Life, Thoughts of the Day
4 Comments
How many days has it been since you replayed a scene in your mind where you said hurtful, revealing or politically incorrect words you wish could have been taken back? Possibly you were diligent in your speech...
Angry conversation

Thought of the Day. Family Conflict (Part III) Preventing Family Conflict

Stan Goldberg
January 30, 2015
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
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In Part I of Family Conflict, I presented the idea conflicts often involve looking at the present through our history. In Part II I wrote that “universal” or “enduring” truths are myths-especially when...
family conflicts

Thought of the Day. Family Conflict (Part II) Why Truth is Relative 

Stan Goldberg
January 28, 2015
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
1 Comment
In Part I of Family Conflict I presented the idea conflicts often involve looking at the present through our history. There is an amazing similarity in the type of conflicts created by a health crisis and...
Passover at the wailing wall

Thought of the Day. Family Conflict (Part I): How the Past Affects The Present

Stan Goldberg
January 26, 2015
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
Passover was a dreaded holiday for me as a teenager growing up in Allentown, Pennsylvania. It was a time when my uncle, who thought of himself as a "lay Rabbi," rose at the head of the table and straightened...
Repeating what doesn't work at stopping violence

A Lesson from Terrorism: Violence and The Grayness of Life

Stan Goldberg
January 16, 2015
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
2 Comments
THOUGHT OF THE DAY. Each day’s new violence makes people want to retreat into a 1950’s bomb shelter, or buy a home in a gated and guarded community, or hide in a shack in a remote part of the woods. Of...
Woman Alone

Grief and Recovery: Whatever Gets You Through the Night

Stan Goldberg
January 2, 2015
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
THOUGHT OF THE DAY.  "Whatever Gets You Through the Night," is the title of John Lennon's 1970's hit single. The phrase, credited to Reverend Ike, a famous black radio evangelist in the 1970's, should be the...
Doing not thinking

Why You Can’t Think Your Way to Happiness

Stan Goldberg
November 19, 2014
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
11/07/14-I love my psychologist friends and have great respect for what they do, but too many overestimate the malleability of the mind. Until you DO something, everything is theory. When I counsel...

It’s Not About Running–It’s the Endorphins

Stan Goldberg
November 19, 2014
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
11/04/14  A few days ago I was running alone of a backroad in North Carolina hoping this wouldn’t be a repeat of the scene in the movie “Easy Rider,” were two country boys shoot Peter Fonda off his...

Why You Should Avoid Anger and How to Do It

Stan Goldberg
November 19, 2014
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
06/13/14  I think everyone has a limited ability to function well. As we age, that threshold becomes lower. Imagine this ability is a 10” pie. The more pieces taken out, the less there is for you. What...

It Takes Less Effort to be Nice

Stan Goldberg
November 19, 2014
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Thoughts of the Day
06/11/14  I’ve just spent a week in North Carolina and was floored by the openness of the people I met. A simple question I asked a baker became a warm animated conversation about making sourdough bread and...

Why “Truth” is Always Relative: A Lesson on Understanding

Stan Goldberg
November 28, 2012
Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life
16 Comments
We move in a world created by our history and often pretend the past and present aren’t connected. A partner becomes annoyed at what we do or say, and we can’t accept the notion that their annoyance is our...

Seeing Life Through Our Personal History: It’s a Gray World

Stan Goldberg
October 15, 2012
Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life
16 Comments
Most of us believe the world should be viewed as we see it. And when there is a discrepancy between the right way—ours—and the wrong way, we are, in the words of Captain Louis Renault in Casablanca,...

Want Enlightenment? Think Less, Do more

Stan Goldberg
March 30, 2012
Grieving and Recovery, Life
12 Comments
When I gave a workshop on change at a well-known retreat center, one participant told me that this was the tenth week-long workshop he attended in the past five years. “Why so many?” I...

Welcome to Kauai. What’s the Strange Stick in Your Hand?

Stan Goldberg
May 30, 2011
Life, Thoughts of the Day
9 Comments
This article was originally published in Saltwater Fly Fishing, December, 1999 Almost every trip now is a fishing trip. Whether it is a professional conference in Anaheim or a visit to see my son at his...

It’s Not Our Fault

Stan Goldberg
January 9, 2011
Grieving and Recovery, Life, Poems
37 Comments
When Christians in the Middle Ages extolled the virtue of holy missions and heard that Crusaders killed innocent Muslims, they cried out "It's not our fault." When Brigadier-General Reginald...

10 Suggestions for Living: Advice from a Tibetan Hermit and My Mother

Stan Goldberg
November 1, 2010
Grieving and Recovery, Life
20 Comments
In the 19th century, the hermit Patrul Rinpoche wrote, Be like a cow. Eat, defecate, and sleep. Everything else is none of your business. After almost 200 years, this easily understood philosophy of life has...
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