55 Years and Waiting: Living John Lewis’s Good Trouble Stan Goldberg July 30, 2020 Life28 CommentsAs I watched John Lewis’s casket roll over the Edmund Pettus Bridge, I thought of the refrain, “if you can remember the 60’s you really weren’t there.” Paul Kanter’s allusions to mindboggling drugs...
9 Ways to Prepare for Gut-Wrenching Coronavirus Losses Stan Goldberg April 4, 2020 End of Life, Grieving and Recovery10 CommentsOfficials from the Center for Disease Control (CDC) assert--with absolute certainty--that I and millions of others will experience soul-crushing losses within the next few weeks because of the coronavirus....
Practice for Developing Alzheimer’s: Part I-Embracing Senior Moments Stan Goldberg November 18, 2019 Aging, Alzheimer’s/dementia6 Commentsbest rated beverage refrigeratorsWhy should you practice living with an illness as dreadful as Alzheimer’s? Because, according to NIH statistics, one-in-ten people over 65 will develop this most common form of dementia, and by 85-years-of-age, one-third of us will be struck.
Six Strategies to Reduce Misery Stan Goldberg July 10, 2019 Chronic illness, Grieving and Recovery, Life4 CommentsEveryone wants to be happy. But it might make more sense to sneak up on happiness by reducing misery. Here are six proven strategies you can use today.
Four Creativity Strategies to Recharge an Aging Brain Stan Goldberg June 26, 2019 Aging6 CommentsWhen we think about “creativity,” images appear of artists, sculptors, writers, or composers laboring away at creating something unique and awe-inspiring. But what about the person who changes a few...
Complacent? When Living with Cancer No Longer Works Stan Goldberg February 6, 2019 Cancer22 CommentsUntil last week, I was one of the millions living with cancer who became complacent about my uninvited guest. That abruptly changed.
The Guardians of Memory (A finalist) Stan Goldberg December 11, 2018 Life, Short Stories2 CommentsHannah glides through the fog as if an apparition—beautiful and giving as if Jesus himself is pouring her out of a wine bottle. I point my old Leica towards her as she stands in front of a Monterey Pine, its branches bent eastward from years of persistent winds. This will be more than just another picture I’ll add to my collection.
Compassion: A Delusional Concept or a Practical Solution? Stan Goldberg November 12, 2018 Aging, Life4 CommentsWhy should you choose to be compassionate to someone who emotionally hurt you? Why not just reinforce those behaviors you approve of and punish those you don’t?
Feeling Helpless? Do Something Positive Instead Stan Goldberg October 30, 2018 Aging, Cancer, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life3 CommentsHelpless? Everyone at one time experiences it due to aging, declining health, shattered relationships, or deteriorating world conditions. The way we confront the feeling shapes our lives. I learned how to deal...
Morality, Bombs, and Trump: A Descent to Alabama, 1965 Stan Goldberg October 24, 2018 Life2 CommentsWe are faced with a morality crisis that will structure the values of our country for generations. As a voting rights activist in Montgomery, Alabama in 1965 I watched proud parents hand their children rocks...
The Meaning of Life—Why the Question Makes No Sense Stan Goldberg May 17, 2018 Aging, End of Life, LifeThe words we use and questions we ask ourselves often shape our lives in ways that can be insightful or hurtful. What is the meaning of life is an example of the latter.
Why Apologies May Not Work Stan Goldberg May 16, 2018 Aging, Life2 CommentsThere was a time when apologies were made in person, where you looked someone in the eyes, admitted what you did was wrong, cruel, unintentional, or just stupid, and listened to their reactions, as difficult as they were to hear.
Caregiver Abuse: The Role of Personality and Illness Stan Goldberg December 21, 2017 Caregiving"How do I separate my loved one’s old abusive behaviors from those caused by his illness?” It’s a question I often hear from caregivers and one that’s difficult to answer definitively.
Alabama Euphoria: Why Principals of Change Suggest Restraint Stan Goldberg December 13, 2017 Life1 CommentThe defeat of Roy Moore brings back memories of my arrest in Alabama 52 years ago. It was March, 1965 and there was a nationwide call for college students to descend on Montgomery in support of the civil rights workers marching from Selma.
Three Subway Christmas Carols Stan Goldberg December 9, 2017 Short Stories4 CommentsIt is December, 2003 and I just got off the C train at 53rd and 5th, when I see his arms flailing above the thousands of people ascending the stairs. “Ban people not cigarettes,” he yells
Coping With Anger: Why You Should Substitute Forgiveness With Understanding Stan Goldberg March 27, 2017 Caregiving1 CommentRarely do we think about how our anger hurts ourselves. We hold on to anger as if it was life-sustaining rather than destructive, believing we can throw hot coals without getting burnt.
14 Questions to Ask Before Selecting a Nursing Home Stan Goldberg February 3, 2017 Caregiving12 Commentsby Stan Goldberg. Originally published by verywell.com, January 23, 2016 There may come a time when, despite wanting to care for your loved one, it may not be possible. Either you’re physically unable or...
Forgiveness: The Best Gift You Can Give To Yourself and Others Stan Goldberg January 31, 2017 Caregiving, Uncategorized2 CommentsThe greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness
The Best Gift You Can Give Yourself: Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 22, 2016 Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life5 CommentsIn this holiday season, we are obsessed with what to give people we love. Few of us think about what we can give ourselves. So here is a suggestion. One that will not cost you anything, other than the anger...
Letting Go: When Losses are Inevitable Stan Goldberg July 29, 2016 Grieving and Recovery15 CommentsAs the Soberanes fire in Carmel, California comes closer to our vacation home, I’m devastated knowing the source of wonderful memories will most likely become a charred monument to quiet weekends, solitude,...