Loving, Supporting and Caring for the Cancer Patient Stan Goldberg May 19, 2016 Cancer20 CommentsMy new book on how to support people living with cancer is published as a hardback by Roman & Littlefield and available from all online book sellers. "Everyone will benefit from his advise"-Jack C....
Depression? Four Simple “Non-Therapy” Strategies to Reduce It Stan Goldberg March 28, 2016 Aging, Alzheimer’s/dementia, Cancer, Caregiving, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life4 CommentsThere are more things that can cause depression as we age. I can’t run as fast or as far as I did ten years ago, my weight only fluctuates upward, I take more time to process information, and I feel under...
Living With Cancer: Don’t Call Us Survivors Stan Goldberg February 9, 2016 Cancer12 CommentsThirteen years ago I received a diagnosis of an aggressive form of prostate cancer, yet I still don’t think of myself as a “survivor.” In fact, when someone attaches the label to me, I feel...
Meditation: How to Take the Wobble Out of Our Minds Stan Goldberg September 22, 2015 CaregivingAn Exclusive Article by About.com's Caregiving Expert, Stan Goldberg Ph.D. We often associate meditation with Eastern religions or new world cults. But modern science has shown the value of this ancient...
When Less is More: Three Strategies for Preventing Caregiver Stress Stan Goldberg August 24, 2015 CaregivingAn exclusive about.com article by Stan Goldberg We want to alleviate the emotional and psychological pain of the person for whom we are caring. The mistake many caregivers make is believing “doing more”...
Caregiving, Death and a Strange Uncle Stan Goldberg August 24, 2015 End of LifeAn exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg We view death with the same anathema as the strange uncle who comes uninvited to a family gathering. Just as the uninvited relative makes us...
Five Ways to Help a Loved One Adjust to Chronic Illness Stan Goldberg August 21, 2015 Chronic illnessAn exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg I sat with my brother-in-law who lived with a chronic illness and reminded him of the enormous number of people he touched during his life. We both...
Brain Cancer: Five Suggestions for Compassionate Caregiving Stan Goldberg June 1, 2015 Cancer, Thoughts of the DayThe death of Beau Biden resurrected memories of caring for my brother-in-law who had a form of brain cancer called Glioblastoma. My wife, two adult children and I took turns flying across the country to...
Chemotherapy, Expectations and Heavy Machinery: Warnings and Suggestions Stan Goldberg May 21, 2015 Cancer, Thoughts of the Day11 Comments It’s not a good idea to have meaningful discussions, work with heavy machinery, or travel to Europe shortly after chemotherapy. I managed to keep my mouth shut, avoided working with anything...
The Need for Stability: Part III-Five Ways To Introduce It Stan Goldberg May 8, 2015 Aging, Life, Thoughts of the Day4 CommentsStability, as we age, is more important than excitement. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging. In Part II I elaborated on its role in chronic and progressive...
The Need for Stability: Part II-Its Role in Chronic and Progressive Illnesses Stan Goldberg May 6, 2015 Aging, Chronic illness, Life, Thoughts of the DayWe often underestimate the need for introducing stability in the lives of people living with chronic and progressive illnesses. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging....
Stability : Part I-Why It’s Critical for Successful Aging Stan Goldberg May 4, 2015 Aging, Chronic illness, Thoughts of the Day3 CommentsI came to an understanding about the need for stability when faced with two financial choices. Regardless what I chose either outcome would be fine, unlike a situation in the past were I was forced to choose...
Run Away: Part III-Five Conflict-Related Questions to Ask Stan Goldberg April 24, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the DayWe often try to isolate events in our lives from everything that precedes and follows it. The practice is delusional at best, destructive at it’s worst. In Part I of this series I questioned the notion...
Run Away: Part II—The Emotional Cost of Conflict Stan Goldberg April 22, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the Day2 CommentsMaybe it’s because I recently turned 70 and finally acquired the wisdom gained from numerous failures. Or possibly I realize that winning isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Regardless of the reason, just...
Run Away: Part I-Life Doesn’t Have to Be a Zero-Sum Game Stan Goldberg April 20, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the Day6 CommentsWe are led to believe success means winning; whether it’s defeating cancer, coming out ahead in a negotiation, prevailing in a family conflict or justice for a wrong committed against us. These daily...
Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part III-How to Evaluate Change Programs Stan Goldberg April 10, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the DayYou are about to spend time and money on a program guaranteeing you will be slimmer, shapelier, healthier, or more successful. You’re motivated to change, but you were also motivated in the past when you...
Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part II: Change-You Didn’t Fail; The Guru Did Stan Goldberg April 8, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the DayWe place our trust in experts to instruct us how to change. With failure, we rarely blame the expert or her program. Most of the time, that’s where the responsibility should rest. Confusing What and How of...
Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part I-Difference Between What and How Stan Goldberg April 6, 2015 Aging, Life, Thoughts of the DayAdvice gurus flood Saturday morning cable shows with programs on weight loss, exercise, wealth management, and becoming more authentic. By following their instructions we will become the person we deserve to...
Squishy Memories: Part III-Corralling The Mind Stan Goldberg March 27, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the DayIn some ways, our memories are like a herd of cattle on an open range; trying to go in whatever direction they choose. Unless they can be controlled and understood, their recall can be destructive. In Part...
Squishy Memories: Part II-Why Does the Mind Change the Past? Stan Goldberg March 25, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the DayIn Part I of this series, I wrote our mind’s creation of memories is unreliable since it has a hidden agenda. In Part II I’ll offer reasons why we should trust memories only a little more than we do a...